The great dating deception

Dating is not the best way to get to know another person, but it is the best way to get involved with another person.

If a girl wants to be impressed with a young man, she needs to see how he speaks to his own mother at home, and not how nice he can be across the dinner table from a cute girl at a restaurant.

They may both deceive themselves into thinking that if they date in this way they are getting to know the other person. In a sense this is true; they are getting to know the other person, but they are getting attached to them first. Before they get to know one another, while they are still putting up appearances, they are growing attached. This means that when they learn how the other person really is (and they certainly will eventually), they will then be in a difficult position of not being able to leave without hurt. (p88-89)