Showing posts with label Anxiety Worry Fear and Rest. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Anxiety Worry Fear and Rest. Show all posts

Saturday, 20 October 2012

Oh for 70 billion tongues (or so)!


let us always have in mind the eternal happiness, the goal of resurrection - a happiness of whose excellence the minutest part would scarce be told if all were said that the tongues of all men can say. 

Calvin: Institutes of the Christian Religion (2 volume set) p1004

Monday, 24 September 2012

Thursday, 29 September 2011

one day at a time

I only dread one day at a time. 
I got this quote from p27 of this book: Running Scared: Fear, Worry and the God of Rest


God willing, I will be preaching on 'worry' this coming Sunday evening. Well, I hope to be preaching more about who God is in the face of our worries.
It will be our Harvest Service. Matthew 6 & Exodus 16 make the link between worry and food. So I hope it 'fits' in an interesting way. [I'm tempted to say, I am worried it won't! But I will resist that temptation.]

Wednesday, 17 November 2010

WWJD?

They went to Capernaum, and when the Sabbath came, Jesus went into the synagogue and began to teach.  22 The people were amazed at his teaching, because he taught them as one who had authority, not as the teachers of the law.  23 Just then a man in their synagogue who was possessed by an evil spirit cried out,  24 "What do you want with us, Jesus of Nazareth? Have you come to destroy us? I know who you are--the Holy One of God!"  25 "Be quiet!" said Jesus sternly. "Come out of him!"  26 The evil spirit shook the man violently and came out of him with a shriek.  27 The people were all so amazed that they asked each other, "What is this? A new teaching--and with authority! He even gives orders to evil spirits and they obey him."  28 News about him spread quickly over the whole region of Galilee.  29 As soon as they left the synagogue, they went with James and John to the home of Simon and Andrew.  30 Simon's mother-in-law was in bed with a fever, and they told Jesus about her.  31 So he went to her, took her hand and helped her up. The fever left her and she began to wait on them.  32 That evening after sunset the people brought to Jesus all the sick and demon-possessed.  33 The whole town gathered at the door,  34 and Jesus healed many who had various diseases. He also drove out many demons, but he would not let the demons speak because they knew who he was.  35 Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.  Mark 1:21-35  
Mark...is describing a typical Sabbath day in the life of our Lord. He provides us with a concrete description of Jesus' Sabbath life so that we can meditate upon it and take it as a pattern for our own observance of the Lord's Day. The delightful thing is that Mark gives us a vision for the entire day, beginning with corporate worship and extending to works of mercy and necessity as well as fellowship. (p70 The Taste of Sabbath: How to Delight in God's Rest)

Friday, 10 July 2009

What's that sound?

There is no dawdling in the face of fear. When we perceive it creeping up on us we want to keep moving. To slow down and listen to what it might be saying is counterintuitive.
But fear is speaking, and we should listen.
(Ch 3 'Fear Speaks')

Thursday, 9 July 2009

Put the light on in the landing

Some Highlights of Chapter 2 in Running Scared

'Your Fears'

Rather than minimize your fears, find more of them. Expose them to the light of day because the more you find the more blessed you will be when you hear words of peace and comfort.

Control and certainty are myths.
Phobias

Heights? suffocation? crowds? terrorism? flying?

Dreams

What are your dreams saying? The content can be silly and inscrutable, but listen for the emotional tone of your dreams. What do they feel like? Being pursued? Missing deadlines? Spinning endless plates? Being exposed and embarrassed? Keep track of them and in the course of a week you will hear them speak
Physical Clues

e.g palpitations, sweaty palms, perspiration, tension headaches, clenched jaws, impotence, rapid breathing, loss of appetite, increased appetite, problems sleeping, high blood pressure...

Take a quick inventory of your physical tension. Start at the top of your head and go to your toes. Unless you are on the tropical beach you once imagined or in a backyard Jacuzzi (loads of those in Tipton), you will probably notice that your forehead and neck are tightened. Your arms are much more constricted than they need
be......
Stress

When we are aware that anxiety has registered at a physical level we call it stress.

Stress is saying that life is teetering on the brink, right at the farthest reaches of your ability to maintain some control.

Stress can also signify that there is something on your to-do list that will be inspected by others.

Anxiety and fear prefer to stay on the surface rather than linger to consider something more deeply. And you are too busy anyway. If you think about these things, you will just get farther behind.
Busy and Driven

Even when paralyzed by circumstances a stressed person is a driven person.
Depression

Listen carefully to depression and you often hear fear and anxiety.

Outside the covers is a world that is out of control with the potential for failure, rejection, and endless surprises we can't even imagine, so depression opts for paralysis.
Anger

A woman rages at her husband for coming home late with alcohol on his breath. Sue, there is the 'You are wrong' component. But there is also ' I am afraid you are losing interest in me. I am afraid you could be tempted by another woman. And when you add alcohol, I get even more afraid.'

The problem is compounded with men because men aren't supposed to be afraid. With no permission to discuss fears, men opt for anger. Sometimes their anger says, 'This is the only way I know to get some control in an out-of-control world.'
Overprotection

Today's parents were an under-protected lot. They grew up during a time when the divorce rate had spiked; they came home to empty houses. Not only were many of them self-parented, they also parented their parents, which means that
they had no parents. So naturally, they are protective now as parents, involved and exhausted. They are looking into preschools before their child is born because they sense that the wrong one could forever handicap his or her future. Fear has given birth to 'extreme parenting.' It looks like love, but it is love mingled with fear.
Superstitions

Do you have any? Ever scared that you will 'tempt fate'? {cricketers are especially terrible for this!}

Friday, 3 July 2009

Bottled Parenting

I love this

And yet, as if from nowhere, the paranoia rises.
Should Simeon be able to roller blade ?
And are we 'holding him back' because we are not giving him this brand of bottled water?

;)

Monday, 16 March 2009

Fear & Worry

Part 1

This looks at our fears and worries and notes what stands out on simple inspection:

->fear and worry runs deep in us all

->fear and worry have meaning - our fears and worries say something

->fear and worry say (among other things) the world is dangerous

->fear and worry reveal us - the things we value and love

Thursday, 26 February 2009

Running Scared?

I like to scare people, and people like to be scared (Stephen King)



The Usual Fears:

  • fears for your safety and the safety of those you love
  • fears about how you will die; a progressively debilitating disease, cancer, Alzheimer's, being alone, sudden, penniless, in pain....
  • fears about what happens after death: being forgotten, being maligned, being judged, being extinct
  • fears about living with a meaningless life
  • fears about being unloved or alone
  • fears about being in love and the high probability of being hurt
  • fears of what you might lose: your figure, boyfriend, girlfriend, hair, youth, mind, money, job, spouse, health, hobbies, purpose, faith.
Where does all this fear & worry come from? How do we deal with our fears & anxieties? Can we? That is what this book is about :


I am looking forward to reading it. It will be more use than this I expect: